Cant even think about this or write about this without thanking God for answering our prayers because none of this would have been possible without His Glory and without the prayers, love and thoughts of our family and friends.
Yesterday was Bilal’s 9 month follow up appointment at his developmental pediatrician. She sees him every 9 months and runs some tests, language, IQ, observation kind of questions which tells us his developmental level compared to typical peers.
In August 2011, he was 3 years and 10 months (almost 4) but he scored the developmental level of a 2 year old. An almost 2 year gap between him and his peers. This is when she gave him the diagnosis of mild autism.
9 months later in May 2012 he was 4 years 8 months old and he scored at the developmental level of 4 years 1 month, a gap of only 7 months. From 2 years to 7 months. 9 months of school and private therapy. She was amazed and told me to just continue what we’re doing and she was optimistic but more surprised really.
Another 9 months later in February 2013 (at the age of 5 years, 5 months) he scored above average (6 years, Kindergarten level) in math, average in receptive language and on the lower end of average for writing skills. In just 18 months of school and therapies he has caught up with his peers developmentally and surpassed them in math. I couldn’t be happier, I’m so proud of him, I cant help the tears of happiness every time I think about it. The doctor was really impressed and excited about his future. I could see the progress and know he’s been doing amazingly with his therapists considering discharge in the near future but to be told his scores is a whole different level of happiness. Alhamdullilah! So he’s caught up with his peers intellectually, academically and developmentally, but we still have more to this journey, we’ve overcome our biggest hurdles, but the tests don’t show how he fits socially, his confidence, it doesn’t show how peers will treat him, and it sure doesn’t show us his future. This month I’m busy with kindergarten observations, phone calls and discussions with teachers and therapists to figure out the best placement for him next year. The developmental pediatrician agrees with me that both class settings of typical kindergarten or special ed class have benefits and risks and its really all up in the air, she would like a mix of both which isn’t possible but we could provide him with lots of resources and assistance if needed. She wants to see him again in October after he’s started kindergarten and to see how he’s doing.
If someone would have told me or if I had stronger faith in God, back in August 2011 that in 2 years this is where we would be I wouldn’t have believed it, when you’re given a diagnosis you just feel devastated and negative, you do your best but that diagnosis like a black cloud is always on your mind you cant shake it off, and you keep having thoughts of this isn’t enough, you want more, you push and shove and I was really strict and stern with Bilal not allowing him to slack off and alhamdilluah we’ve been blessed, blessed with amazing grandparents from both sides that haven’t stopped praying for him, for friends and family, insurance, finances dedicated therapists and teachers, and for our health and determination to keep going and not giving up.
I’ll be posting another post within the month detailing our kindergarten placement and IEP meeting results. and as always dont stop praying for Bilal and for continued progress in all aspects of his life inshaAllah.